For some, the road to motherhood seems easy. For others, the journey takes longer and the battle against discouragement and hopelessness is a daily struggle. If you struggle with infertility, it’s important to stay hopeful. However, certain times of year make it difficult to be brave. For the childless, Mother’s Day is tough. There’s no way around that.
It probably feels like there’s no escape. From social media posts to the barrage of advertisements with their images of happy women surrounded by children, nobody wants to be reminded of what they don’t have. Which is why it’s important to recognize — not ignore — your feelings.
This post is not meant to take away from a day of celebration. Mothers everywhere deserve recognition and appreciation. However, if you’re struggling today, you need to know that you are not alone. You matter. While Mother’s Day may be difficult, here are some suggestions that we hope can make this day can be more bearable.
Do What You Need
You may need to cry or grieve. You may need to be around your people to talk things out or to be alone. Just take it easy, and do what you need to feel okay today.
Stay Away From Social Media
Chances are, you have multiple social media accounts. On Mother’s Day, your Instagram, Twitter and Facebook have the potential to become dangerous spaces. You don’t need to like anyone’s post or see a hundred different pictures of moms with their kids. The best thing to do is to avoid all social media this day. Don’t put yourself in a position to be hurt.
Take Part in Something That Makes You Happy
Allow this day to be a special day for you, and do something you love. Go hiking. Visit a spa. Indulge in meals that aren’t on your diet plan. Today is a day to relax and take extra special care of yourself, so be sure to do something — anything — that makes you happy.
Don’t Go Anywhere You Don’t Want To
You do not have to feel guilted or obligated to do something you don’t want to do today. Whether it’s a church service where you know they’ll be giving special acknowledgments to mothers or a get-together, these moments are potential triggers that could put you in emotional turmoil. If you feel guilty, just remember that those who love you don’t want you to suffer for their sake.
Avoid Focusing on the Pain
It’s easy to focus on what you don’t have on Mother’s Day. However, make a choice to celebrate what you do have. Focus on the positive things that make your life great. If you make a list of the things you’re thankful for, large and small, you’re likely to be surprised by how long the list grows. From family and friends who fill your life with joy to an incredible job to the sun shining each morning, choose to be thankful.
Spend Time With Your Special Someone
If you’re in a relationship, spend time with your significant other. Chances are, you’ve been facing the challenges and heartache of infertility together. Don’t let pain and discouragement put a wedge between you. Use this day to focus on your relationship. Grieve together. Laugh together. Just be together.
Don’t Go Through This Journey Alone
At Western Fertility Institute, our goal is to ensure couples struggling with infertility have a place they can turn where they’re totally understood. Our team is committed to working with you every step of the way in your journey to create a family of your own.
If you would like to speak with one of our compassionate and knowledgeable fertility specialists, we invite you to contact us. We want to be here for you to lend an ear and offer a place where you can turn when things get difficult.