Finding out that your in vitro fertilization treatment has failed can be devastating. As intended parents, you and your partner may feel deep disappointment and even bereavement. You’re not alone. Talk to your fertility specialist about why your IVF may have failed. Then, follow our five tips for coping with IVF failure and never giving up hope.
Why Did My IVF Treatment Fail?
After receiving the news that you’re not pregnant, take time to recover. Then, talk to your fertility specialist about why your treatment was unsuccessful. There are two main reasons that IVF fails:
- The embryos fail to develop in the womb.
- The IVF treatment is cancelled, either before the eggs are collected or before the embryos are transferred to the womb.
How to Move on From IVF Failure
Your fertility specialist will help you and your partner decide whether you should try IVF again or explore other options. Keep the following thoughts in mind as you move forward on your path to parenthood.
1. Ask for Help
Sometimes, the road to becoming a parent isn’t easy. After IVF failure, it’s more important than ever to turn to your support system. Your partner, family, friends and a licensed counselor can help you cope with heartache in the healthiest way possible.
2. Stay Hopeful
When you’re going through infertility treatments and testing, worrying is normal. There will be good days, and there will be bad days. Surrounding yourself with positive thoughts and affirmations is a good way to replace negative feelings with faith and hope.
3. Know You’re Not Alone
Many couples and individuals struggle with infertility. In fact, one in eight couples have trouble getting or staying pregnant, according to RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association. Reaching out to other intended parents who have been through IVF failure can help you come to terms with the present and make a plan to move forward.
4. Remember That You Always Have Options
Many circumstances can lead to IVF failure. If this was your first IVF treatment, your fertility specialist may talk to you about attempting IVF again based on your chances of conceiving. Sometimes intended parents are unable to have more treatment or are not sure if additional treatment is right for them. If that’s the case, know that you always have options beyond IVF.
5. Turn to Fertility Specialists Who Understand Your Journey
At Western Fertility Institute, we know the emotional pain you’ve been through while dealing with infertility. It can feel like your dream of starting a family is slipping away, but we won’t stop working on your behalf until you hold a child in your arms. Our fertility specialists are here to discuss your unique situation and provide you with encouragement and options.
If you would like to speak with one of our compassionate fertility specialists, we invite you to contact us anytime. We’ll answer your questions about moving on from IVF failure and embracing other treatment options that may be available.
This content was medically reviewed by the Western Fertility Institute medical team on August 5, 2019.