Choosing to become a surrogate mother can be a life-changing moment. You’re helping someone, often a stranger, complete their family with the gift of a child. On this beautiful journey, you’ll experience joy, purpose and pride, but there will also be days when you’ll feel overwhelmed and a bit lonely. Rest assured that this ebb and flow is completely normal and natural.
To keep a healthy balance over the next nine months, remember our top five tips for enjoying your surrogacy to the fullest.
1. Pamper Yourself
Between late-night kicking and daily hormonal shifts, pregnancy can be a challenge. During your previous pregnancies, you probably took time out to pamper yourself with warm baths, manicures or Netflix. Don’t forget these tried-and-true self-care techniques during your surrogacy. If need be, lean on your partner, friend or trusted babysitter so that you can enjoy a few hours of guilt-free alone time.
2. Connect With Other Surrogates
Surrogacy can feel like a lonely journey. The truth is, there are many surrogates out there who would love to bond over your shared experiences. Seek out other surrogate mothers on social media or through your surrogate agency. Then, start a private Facebook group or schedule FaceTime calls to offer encouragement and support. Talking with like-minded women who understand what you’re going through can be all you need on your toughest days.
3. Spend Time With Your Kids and Partner
Being a surrogate mother is something you share not only with the intended parents but also with your own family. Amid doctor’s appointments and clinic visits, it’s essential to set aside quality time to spend with your partner and children. Talk to your kids about your pregnancy and reassure them that they’re your world. And don’t forget to carve out “no kids allowed” time when you and your partner can reconnect.
4. Follow Your Intuition
Listen to your gut throughout your surrogacy. This is especially important when you’re choosing your intended parents and talking about your preferences for relationship-building and communication. You’ve chosen a selfless path, but you should also speak up if something doesn’t feel right. In moments of uncertainty, use your support squad for guidance.
5. Cherish Your Delivery Day
The look on the intended parents’ faces when they hold their baby for the first time. That moment is what many surrogate mothers most look forward to. In conversations with the intended parents, talk about your preferred birth experience. You may even consider booking a birth photographer to capture this life-affirming moment. Whatever you decide, your delivery day will be absolutely worth it.
How to Become a Surrogate Mother
We’re honored that you would consider becoming a gestational surrogate at Western Fertility Institute. Surrogacy is a beautiful decision made with compassion and commitment. We’re dedicated to intended parents interested in third-party reproduction solutions, as well as women who are able and willing to become surrogate mothers.
If you feel prepared to start the process or would like more information, we invite you to reach out to us today! We’ll provide answers to all your questions and give you the assurance you need to get started.
This content was medically reviewed by the Western Fertility Institute medical team on August 26, 2019.