Are you looking to add a new little life to your family? So many couples dream of having a child of their own — but for many, circumstances or fertility can interfere with that dream. If you’re unable to have a child on your own, you still have options — and hope. Here’s what you need to know about surrogacy, adoption and which is the right choice to start or grow your family.
Adoption is the process of choosing a child who is not biologically related to you. The process may occur during the birth mother’s pregnancy or after the child is born, depending on the age you’re looking for.
Surrogacy is an arranged pregnancy using a gestational carrier, a surrogate who does not use her own egg. Using in vitro fertilization, an embryo created from the intended parents’ genetic materials is transferred to the uterus of the surrogate, where she will carry the baby to term. For gay couples or parents with fertility challenges, a donor’s genetic material may be used for one or both of the parents. Surrogacy also gives you the option to decide on the genetic parenthood of your future baby. At Western Fertility Institute, we never use the surrogate’s egg, so you can always feel confident, comfortable and in control of the process.
Pros and Cons of Adoption
Both adoption and surrogacy involve their own rewards and challenges. Adoption offers the following benefits to potential parents:
- Adoption provides a stable home for a child who needs it while also completing a family who wants a child.
- Adoptive parents don’t need to worry about whether a surrogate will become pregnant — the baby will already be born or in utero.
- Adoption is typically less expensive than surrogacy.
Some drawbacks of adoption may include:
- The adoption often happens after the child is born, so you won’t have control over the prenatal environment. The intended parents will most likely not be involved in the pregnancy.
- Because the child is not biologically related to you, the birth mother may sometimes change her mind after the child is born.
- There is the potential possibility of the baby’s birth parents vying for legal status.
- Becoming the legal parents can be a drawn-out process, often taking place months after the child’s placement.
Pros and Cons of Surrogacy
To decide whether surrogacy is the right choice for you, explore its benefits, including:
- A child born through surrogacy will be biologically related to the intended parents.
- You as parents will be able to have a relationship with the surrogate and have a say in the prenatal environment.
- As the intended parents, you’ll get to be involved in the pregnancy, even though you won’t carry the baby yourself.
- As the biological parents, your legal status over the child will always be certain.
- In surrogacy, the pregnancy is always planned — so both the surrogate and the intended parents will find the best match and be joyful about the process.
- The surrogate-parent relationship will be determined prior to the embryo transfer.
Some challenges of surrogacy include:
- The intended parents will have to wait for the surrogate to get pregnant, and sometimes you’ll need to try again or find another surrogate if the first IVF isn’t successful.
- With medical expenses for IVF, surrogate compensation, and expenses for pregnancy and delivery, surrogacy may be more expensive than adoption.
Bring Your New Family to Life Today
When you’re ready to make a decision about adding to your family, Western Fertility Institute is here to make your process as comfortable as possible. As a one-stop shop for fertility assistance and surrogacy, we offer you a step-by-step journey to the next chapter of your life — your own child. Contact us today to learn about how we help make your family complete.
This content was medically reviewed by the Western Fertility Institute medical team on August 22, 2019.