Starting a cycle of fertility treatment — whether it’s your first time or you’ve experienced previous rounds — brings hope of finally getting the child you’ve always wanted. You may have traveled for treatment and devoted a significant amount of time and money toward achieving your dream. While fertility treatments provide many people the joy of having a child, fertility treatments can fail. It’s important to understand all the highs and lows of fertility treatments and work with professionals you can trust to help you through the journey.
1. Mentally Prepare Yourself
Whether you’re trying in vitro fertilization (IVF), Intrauterine insemination (IUI) or frozen embryo transfer (FET), mental preparedness is key to understanding realistic outcomes. Couples who have been trying to have a baby for years may expect a fertility treatment to deliver a positive result right away. However, there is always the chance a fertility treatment could fail.
Talk to your doctor about the chances of success and prepare yourself for the possibility that you may not get pregnant right away. This is also a great time to lean on your partner, friends and family for support. Talk to your loved ones about what you’re feeling.
2. Consider Other Fertility Paths
The great news about infertility treatments is that you have more than one option. While many individuals start with IUI then go on to IVF, every person’s fertility path is different. Some people go through several cycles of fertility treatment before celebrating a positive pregnancy test.
Keep in mind that you should give each fertility treatment a good chance. If you go through several rounds of IUI and still don’t get pregnant, you can move onto IVF. If you don’t have success with IVF, it’s a great time to consider a surrogate or adoption.
3. Positively Deal With Grief
Discovering your fertility treatments haven’t worked can lead to grief, depression, anxiety and more. You’re not alone. Many people grieve for a potential baby, even when they never received a positive pregnancy result. For example, one woman described her failed fertility treatment cycle as a feeling of “failure” and grieved the loss of the child she and her husband expected to have.
During this time, try to surround yourself with people who truly care. Seek out a grief counselor who can help you positively process your emotions. You can even join a support group or search for online forums made up of other individuals working through fertility treatment failure.
4. Talk to Your Doctor
Understanding why your fertility treatment didn’t work can help you keep a more positive outlook for the next cycle. Talk to your doctor about why you’ve had unsuccessful attempts and come up with a plan moving forward. They can provide the support you need and make sure you have the information necessary to make the right choices for your future.
Contact Western Fertility Institute Today
Western Fertility Institute truly understands both the joys and challenges of fertility treatments. We’re proud to offer numerous treatment options, and we’ll walk alongside you every step of the way. Schedule an appointment online to get started.
This content was medically reviewed by the Western Fertility Institute medical team on September 12, 2019.